28 May 3 Ways To Improve Your Interpersonal Skills

Are you happy with the way you communicate with others? Are You Well Liked in the Office? These are few questions that you should answer yourself to assess your satisfaction with your Interpersonal skills. According to a study done by Deloitte on 10455 millennials, Interpersonal Skills is the no 1 skills that young people are missing.  Interpersonal skills are the skills we use every day when we communicate and interact with other people, both individually and in groups.

There are two types of interpersonal skills namely verbal and nonverbal communicational skills. Unfortunately, these skills are not given to everybody and it is the most valuable skills at work. Lucky for you, I did my Bachelor in Human Relations and interpersonal skills was a subject that we covered in several classes. In this blog post, I will cover 2-3 ways for you to develop your interpersonal skills.

Be Happy

The first solution for improving your interpersonal skills is to be happy. This is a nonverbal skills that has lot of impact on your verbal. Think about the tone that you have whether you are happy or not. I strongly suggest to you to work on your happiness or to work on an optimistic way of thinking because people love to be around other individuals that are happy.  Happiness is contagious and it makes them happy. If there’s one skills that I master is the art of being happy and optimistic ( most of the times.) In all my previous jobs, my managers would tell me that they love my charisma and the way I always seem to be happy! (Think about Eddy Murphy in coming to America, I was happy like him!) However, there were days that I felt kinda down but I had to remind myself to be happy.

When I used to work in sales, I had to make over 400 cold calls a day, believe me, it was insane. Getting rejected all day was depressing and  it was a rabbit hole because the person at the other hand of the line could feel my energy within the first 10 seconds. In order to stay in a good vibe, I was forcing myself to smile for my first calls. I used to have a mirror in front of me and I would force it. Forcing yourself to smile and behaving yourself to act as if you were happy are known ways to trick your brain into happiness. And guess what? I was landing way more opportunities by being joyful. BEING HAPPY IS IMPORTANT. This doesn’t only impact your synergy at work, it is also important for your personal relationships with friends and lovers. Just think about the ease of communication you have with happy people versus the not so happy people ( to say pessimist). That being said, there are few ways to be more happy in your every day life:

• Be Present
• Be Grateful
• And Care for Real

Listen more than you talk

A great way to improve your personal skills is to listen. Have you ever heard someone complain about another person that would listen too much? Exactly! When someone talk, make sure to give them your full attention and to listen to them. Do not listen to answer, listen because you care. Listening does not totally mean to keep quiet and just intake the other person’s information, in fact, the main reason why you should listen is to make sure that you can understand and control the conversations. Giving feedbacks, demonstrate brief verbal affirmation and paraphrasing are different ways to demonstrate that you are actively listening. That way, the person with whom you are interacting will enjoy your presence and this is an interpersonal skill that you should master since it doesn’t take much effort.

Be A Good Communicator

In contrast to being a great listener, it is important to be a great communicator. Being able to express yourself the right way and the way you intended makes a big difference. When in a discussion, you should think before you talk and be able to back up the statement that you say. You don’t want to be the person that says a random statement and when asked about it, doesn’t know why they feel that way ( I know too many of those). Be sure about what you want to talk about and think twice about the words you use. With clear communication, you’ll be able to avoid any potential misunderstandings with colleagues.

Being happy, be an active listener and a great communicator are 3 ways that you can improve your interpersonal skills TODAY. Improve these skills and people will perceive you as optimistic, calm, confident and charismatic – qualities that are often endearing or appealing to others.

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